- Gender euphoria is a feeling of relief, contentment and joy from gender-affirming experiences—the exact opposite of gender dysphoria.
- Gender euphoria can be felt by everyday expression, gender-affirming sex, and masturbation.
- You deserve to feel euphoric inside your magical body every single day!
You deserve to feel gender euphoria. Every. Single. Day.For some transgender people, a surge in gender euphoria comes after receiving gender-affirming surgeries. A 2019 study with 281 American transfeminine adults showed that hair removal treatment such as electrolysis or laser hair removal significantly decreased distress and depression while increasing overall wellbeing. Gender-affirming surgeries are not always financially available, but the queer and trans community draws upon everyday sources of gender euphoria for survival. The musky scent of men’s cologne might elicit goosebumps for a transmasc dude. A non-binary femme who feels disconnected to their breasts might hear their entire body sigh with relief after putting on a chest binder. A transfemme beauty may feel tingly, toe-curling pleasure from posing for raunchy photos on the beach. Gender-diverse people can also experience gender euphoria through sex positions and preferences that affirm their gender identity.
What is gender-affirming sex?Gender-affirming sex can be experienced on both an intimate and casual level, as long as consent, preferences, and boundaries are very clearly communicated before having sex. For example, trans men might find it affirming when their partner refers to their genitals as “your dick,” “your throbbing cock,” or (to appeal to one’s Dom side) “Daddy’s almighty cock.” For trans women, it can be the opposite. They may enjoy being called “princess,” “good girl,” or “baby” in bed. For non-binary people, sensual name-calling can vary. King, baby girl, slut, wonderland, or queen — any of these terms can help you or your partner feel more seen during sex. If you don’t know what names you like to be called in bed, it could be helpful to experiment with a partner you trust. Communication is the most important part of having a gender-affirming sexual experience.
The queer and trans community draws upon everyday sources of gender euphoria for survival.Certain sex positions can feel gender-affirming, too. Three gender-diverse people were generous enough to share with us which positions feel the most gender-affirming. Braxton M., a trans man, shares, “Cowgirl and reverse are my two most gender-euphoric. I feel powerful and masculine, yet I am able to be submissive to my partner. Embracing both sides of who I am makes me the most euphoric.” Another trans man, Jesse N., describes himself as bisexual, but is mostly attracted to men. “I am a bottom to my boyfriend’s top,” he says. “Anal sex is the most euphoric to me as that’s how the world expects when two men are having sex.” Jesse feels as if bottoms are “unfairly feminized,” and that the association that bottoms are always feminine is harmful for transmasc people. Trans influencer, activist, and fashion designer Mars W. says that he loves “a femme top moment,” with many heart-eye emojis for emphasis. Being topped by a femme while “still being seen as masculine by my partner” makes Mars feel the most euphoric. Even though we have preconceived notions about what masculine or feminine partners do in bed, it’s impossible to guess what makes you or your partner feel affirmed without communicating those boundaries beforehand.