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October Sexoscopes

| 09/30/2021

Illustration by Sophi Gullbrants

Welcome to October lovers! Libra season highlights the aesthetic side of all things fall, pumpkins, apple picking, sweater weather, and pumpkin spice everything. This year the spookiest month is likely to be haunted by the ghosts of relationships past, thanks to Mercury retrograde in partnership loving Libra until October 18. This isn’t a bad thing, rather a wonderful opportunity for closure and tying up loose ends as we close out 2021. Go ahead and google all of your exes, even if you have no intention of speaking to them, we won’t tell. 

Libra loves balance, and this month’s Mercury retrograde will highlight the areas of life that are out of balance while the second half of the month you will have opportunities to deepen existing intimate relationships once any imbalances are worked through. Venus moves into daring Sagittarius on the 8th, infusing playful heat into romantic encounters, while Mars in Libra all month is eager to please. Staying with your feelings rather than shutting down emotionally is the key to transformation as the sun moves into sexy Scorpio on the 23rd. Intimacy and intensity go hand in hand under the Scorpio sun, don’t be afraid to unearth your deepest fantasies and explore the taboo sides of pleasure. 

Libra & Libra Rising (September 23-October 22)

Happy solar return Libra! Having Mercury retrograde in your sign may have you feeling out of balance, but it’s really asking you to pay attention to where you may have been too passive and need to speak up for your needs more. This could actually be very sexy when you use your inherent charm to communicate your desires. This month you are especially magnetic, focus your intentions on drawing in the opportunities and experiences that will fill you up and turn you on, don’t be quick to say yes to everything and everyone. Being selective reflects healthy boundaries, let others please you for a change.

 

Scorpio & Scorpio Rising (October 23-November 21)

The beginning of the month may require you to slow down and rest, whether you want to or not, Scorpio. Instead of forcing yourself to push through, take everything off your plate that doesn’t excite you. This may feel like a bold move, that you risk losing opportunities, but you are actually clearing space for experiences worthy of your time and dedication. Listen to your intuition when it comes to how you allocate your energy. Focus on the relationships and activities that ignite your passion and need for intensity that bring you pleasure rather than drama. 

 

Sagittarius & Sagittarius Rising (November 22-December 21) 

You’re in for a fun and sexy month, Sagittarius. Mercury’s retrograde in Libra could bring back a parade of exes for some, but this could also manifest as a friend confessing romantic feelings for you that somehow everyone else could see but you. Either way, you will have no shortage of flirtatious encounters, don’t be in a rush to commit to anything or anyone. With Venus moving into your sign early in the month, love and romance are an adventure, not a destination, enjoy the views and keep it moving. 

 

Capricorn & Capricorn Rising (December 22-January 20)

You’re in your sweet spot this month, Capricorn. Your hard work and dedication are being highlighted, and you may be more focused on work this month than usual. Try not to be frustrated by any delays or the general pace of productivity moving slower than anticipated, you’ll be grateful when it allows you to double and triple-check yourself before moving forward at the end of the month. Remember to check in with your relationships, and communicate that while your attention may be needed elsewhere, your devotion and affection remain. 

 

Aquarius & Aquarius Rising (January 21-February 18)

Go on an adventure this month, Aquarius. You don’t need a plane or an itinerary to explore, instead try a blindfold, either literally or metaphorically. When you allow yourself to feel around in the darkness you invite mysterious and unexpected surprises. This is a reminder that when you try to control everything in life it leads to stagnation, which triggers rebellion and can lead to chaos. Being intentional about surrender and allowing more spontaneity will respark any lackluster vibes you’ve been feeling, especially in your erotic encounters.

 

Pisces & Pisces Rising (February 19-March 20)

Your intuition is spot on this month, Pisces, use it as your guide when making decisions, rather than what appears logical. Mercury retrograde asks you to seek balance in your intimate partnerships, possibly by bringing back former lovers to show you the imbalances that soured the romance can now become your teachers. Take what you’ve learned and leave the rest, you’re on the path to experience deeper love, and that always begins with your own willingness to allow these experiences to transform you as you fall more in love with yourself first. 

 

Aries & Aries Rising (March 21-April 19)

Are you ready for a romantic renewal, Aries? This month the sun and Mercury retrograde are in your opposite sign of Libra, bringing a renewal of partnership energy. This will affect you whether you are in a relationship or not, the goal is to find balance and harmony within yourself that is reflected in your partnerships. Take some time to consider what you desire from romance and what you are available to give to your lovers. For those in relationships, it’s a great time for a healthy check in, have this conversation with yourself and also with your partner.

 

Taurus & Taurus Rising (April 20-May 20)

Re-evaluate your self-care routine this month, Taurus. Mercury retrograde is the perfect time to recommit to the practices that bring you inner peace and help you feel your best. When you focus on taking care of yourself you are more present and available for your relationships. Balance your energy by prioritizing what brings you the most pleasure and who you enjoy sharing your time with. Destress with lots of slow stretching, yoga nidra, and sensual massages, on your own or with a partner as long as the emphasis is on deep relaxation.

 

Gemini & Gemini Rising (May 21-June 20)

You’re feeling romantic and flirtatious this month, Gemini. The Libra sun has you ready to mix and mingle, and Mercury retrograde might make you the one reaching out to your exes, even if it’s just for a friendly catch up. Reconnecting to those you once cared for is perfectly acceptable as long as you manage your expectations. For those in relationships, this is a wonderful time to check in with your partner about your feelings, what is working great, and where improvements can be made. These little check-ins make a big impact on shared intimacy, don’t be afraid to open up.

 

Cancer & Cancer Rising (June 21-July 22)

Go within and spend some time focusing on self-reflection this month, Cancer. Journaling about your feelings both current and past could be a helpful way to process your emotions right now. Focus on re-evaluating what you need to feel safe and secure in your relationships, ask yourself when was the last time you felt truly at home in your body, what were you doing during that time and who were you with? Don’t be afraid to go deep into your fears as well as your hopes, they are two sides of the same coin, you deserve to transform the past into a more lovingly balanced present.

 

Leo & Leo Rising (July 23-August 22)

Take things slow this month, Leo. Carefully consider your responses before answering the many invitations you will be receiving this month. Your relationships require a ton of attention, and Mercury retrograde is asking you to look deeper into why that may be. Consider the role you play by being everyone’s hero, while it may satisfy your own craving for attention, is it really the kind of balanced energy you’re intending to invite? What would happen if your partners showed up for you with the same enthusiasm and intensity you bring to them?

 

Virgo & Virgo Rising (August 23-September 22)

What do you value most, Virgo? Mercury retrograde asks you to take some time to name the things you care most about, from your favorite possessions to your most treasured relationships, who and what matters the most? Where do you fall on the list of importance? Focus on gratitude for what you have and the people in your life, and also acknowledge yourself for being a wonderful friend and lover. Positive reinforcement is sexy, and everyone benefits from a little adoration and appreciation, especially you.

 

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