Pay attention to your energy levelsA big culprit for a missing libido is a lack of energy. During the winter it’s hard not to be basically a blanket burrito for months on end, but this is not so great for your health (or sex life). Darnell says you should see if your energy levels are dulled in various areas of your life.
“Maintaining great digestion and getting blood flowing into the genitals is a fun way to start developing a relationship with your body again."Take stock of where you’ve been lacking. Have you stopped socializing? Have you given up grooming? Have to stop eating healthily in favor of snacks? “Regardless of your gender, these things can take a toll on our self-esteem and wellbeing,” Darnell explains.
Get back to eating healthy foods and get to the gymAfter being sedentary all winter, your libido can feel like a distant friend you never hang out with anymore. That’s because your libido is directly linked to your health. To get it moving again, you need to get your digestive tract going. Drink lots of water and get your butt back on the healthy eating plan you’ve (probably) let fall to the wayside. When your digestion is on track, your libido is on track. “Maintaining great digestion and getting blood flowing into the genitals is a fun way to start developing a relationship with your body again after hibernating all winter,” Darnell says. On that same note, get your body moving. Studies show that exercise can help with mood, feelings of well-being, and sexual health. When you feel good, you start to feel desire come back into your life.
Go out in the sunThe main factor that causes seasonal depression and subsequent low libido isn’t the cold weather, it’s the lack of sunlight. Lucy Rowett, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach, points out that spending time outdoors is directly linked to feeling up for sex. Why? It’s that good old vitamin D. (And no, there is no double entendre there … or is there?!) Vitamin D can have an effect on estrogen levels, causing a lowered sex drive in people who do not have enough of it. In male-bodied people, having low vitamin D lowers testosterone, having a similarly negative impact on libido. Try to get about 10 to 15 minutes of sunlight each day. Just be sure you’re wearing an SFP 30 or higher.
“The number one way to get libidos moving again is by assessing the quality, not quantity of the sex we are having.”Additionally, being outside helps calm your mood. Being indoors for a long period of time isn’t great for anyone’s wellbeing. It helps to get out into open space, stretch your legs, and breathe fresh air into your lungs.