#PleasureIsHealth
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#PleasureIsHealth

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Created on 08/01/2019
Updated on 23/03/2026
Alexandra Fine

Alexandra Fine

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Dame works hard to connect with you, so we can make sexual wellness accessible to you. Recently, our exciting new ad campaign with the MTA was rejected — a 180 from their initial agreement to work with us. The result: plenty of space for penetration drugs, but no voice for innovators making sex enjoyable. Here’s our story.

 

This July, we reached out to the MTA to run an ad campaign on the subway after our friends at Unbound got the MTA to approve their ads. In September, we got our first approval; they were interested in working with us! We were going to show the world just how happy people can be when they embrace their own pleasure and seek out tools that add value to their sex lives.

After initially agreeing to work with us, the MTA gave us direct feedback on how to refine our ads over several months. We worked hard on developing a tasteful, balanced campaign that they would be comfortable with, featuring testimonials from customers who love our toys and want to tell people about it. We submitted these final ads (below) on November 2nd, and then… we waited.  

 

             

 

And waited. We didn’t hear a peep until after Thanksgiving, three weeks later. Three weeks of complete silence, after months of working on a campaign that they had already greenlit. Suddenly, our campaign was rejected citing “updated guidelines” preventing “sexually oriented” businesses from advertising. This made us wonder: why are pharmaceutical and supplement companies like Hims, Hers, and Welleco still allowed to advertise on the subway?

Toys for sex are regularly prescribed by doctors as a drug-free, affordable solution for low-libido, arousal disorders, and sexual function issues for those recovering from abuse, cancer, and more.

If we tie “health” to the ability to have penetrative sex, but treat sexual pleasure as immoral, then we are promoting bad sex for vulva-havers.

But really, this is more than just about some guidelines. Over half the people with vulvas in the US have used a vibrator, and the benefits of doing so are many. But if vibrator companies can't advertise, then those people won’t know what options are available to them. Advertising, legislation, the media, internet platforms — these facets of public life taken together represent and shape our values as a society. We don’t think a state transit agency should wield so much de facto power over whether we can bridge the gap between the health perks that vibrators offer, and the people who stand to benefit most from them.

We hope you’ll share our story and help us do the work that the MTA, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and many others are unwilling to do. Please use the hashtag #PleasureIsHealth, and mention @dameproducts and @MTA (@mtanyctransit on Instagram) to spread awareness. We’re just trying to connect to people like you to make the world a happier place, one vulva at a time.

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FAQs

A: A vibrator is a powerful and versatile personal pleasure device that creates vibrations to stimulate various sensitive areas of your body, like the clitoris and G-spot. They come in a wide range of shapes, sizes, and features, so there's something for everyone.

Vibrators can be used on almost any erogenous zone, offering unique sensations that can boost your pleasure and help you discover what feels amazing. Some are designed to mimic penetration, while others focus on external stimulation to give you an unforgettable experience.

Did you know that fewer than 20% of vulva-owner can climax solely with vaginal stimulation or intercourse? This is why vibrators have been growing in popularity, and why companies like Dame are dedicated to amplifying the conversation of closing the pleasure gap.

Learn more on the blog.

A: Using a vibrator can enhance your pleasure significantly, but where you use them differs based on preference and if you are a vulva or penis owner. Begin by selecting a comfortable and private space where you feel at ease. If desired, use sex toy-safe lubrication, as this will enhance sensations and reduce friction. Turn on your vibrator (usually a button on the opposite end of the "head"), and explore different settings or intensities using the buttons provided on the device and gradually finding what feels best for you.

For an additional step-by-step guide, check out detailed instructions here, which talk about insights on techniques, positioning, and tips for maximum pleasure.

A: There are numerous types of vibrators, each designed for various forms of stimulation:

Clit Vibrator: These are specifically shaped to target the clitoris, often with a compact and discreet design for ease of use.

G-spot Vibrator: Typically curved, these vibrators are designed to reach and stimulate the G-spot, providing deeper sensations during penetration.

Finger Vibrator: Small and often worn on the fingertip, these offer precise control and are perfect for targeted stimulation.

Couples Vibrator: Designed to be worn during intercourse, they provide simultaneous pleasure by stimulating both partners.

Vibrating Cock Ring: Worn around the base of the penis, these enhance sensations for both partners during sex and can help with stamina.

Suction Vibrator: These use suction air-pulse technology to create a unique sensation for the clitoris, often simulating oral stimulation.

Wand Vibrator: Known for its powerful motors and larger size, these versatile devices can be used all over the body for broad-based pleasure.

Bullet Vibrator: Compact and portable and designed for targeted stimulation and are perfect for both solo and partnered play.

A: Yes! Dame vibrators are designed to be waterproof, making them suitable for use in the bath or shower. They also come with rechargeable batteries, eliminating the need for disposable batteries and ensuring long-lasting pleasure. Most can be charged via USB, making it easy to keep them ready for when the mood strikes.

A: Dame vibrators are touted for their whisper-quiet motors, designed to pleasure without drawing attention or distracting during intimate moments. If you're looking for a discreet vibrator, try looking for something smaller in size, like a bullet vibrator.