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December Sexoscopes

| 12/02/2021

Illustration by Sophi Gullbrants

Welcome to December lovers! Another year is coming to a close, but not without a few cosmic surprises, starting with a powerful eclipse on December 4th. Eclipses come in sets of two (the first happening last month on November 19th) and are significant in the endings and beginnings that can happen during the two weeks of their most potent energy. These changes will last up to six months. Notice what has shifted in the last week, widen your view and take stock of what has changed from December 2020 until December 2021. You are not the same.  Whether your relationships have radically altered, your work looking very different, or perhaps every area of life has been adjusted in some way, know that it’s ok for your nervous system to take some time to catch up. Even though the sun is in speedy Sagittarius, this might be the month you finally give yourself permission to slow down. 

Harness Sagittarius’ optimism to light the way as you navigate family gatherings which cause inevitable anxiety. There is an opportunity to approach the holidays differently with excessive Venus in conservative Capricorn asking you to stay grounded rather than escape your feelings with empty calories and meaningless consumption. This is more than sugary sweets and fast fashion – it extends to the relationships that leave you feeling bloated and undernourished. Venus will retrograde on December 20 for 40 long days, giving you ample time to sort through everything that isn’t the highest quality but has been living rent free in your mind, heart, and closet. What appears to be a buzzkill is ultimately the portal to the life upgrade you’ve been wishing for so don’t be afraid to dig in and do the work as it will take you far in 2022. 

Sagittarius & Sagittarius Rising (November 22-December 21)

Happy Solar Return Sagittarius! You’re known for your adventurous spirit, unflinching optimism and distilling hard truths into your biting sense of humor without mortally wounding your loved ones, which is why you’re the perfect party guest, especially around the holidays. This month, with Venus retrograde in serious Capricorn, your levity is a shining beacon in your relationships. Maybe it’s time you let your partners see you as the leader you are rather than the cute comic relief sidekick. This responsibility is the type of challenge that turns you on rather than dragging you down so show everyone how you turn lead into gold… While looking super hot doing it 🙂

Capricorn & Capricorn Rising (December 22-January 20)

End the year on a high note Capricorn! Climbing the mountain of life is your jam, not everyone understands it, and you don’t have the time to explain it to those who don’t get it. This month, while everyone is dealing with how Venus retrograde will affect them, you are passing them by on your way to the top. Use this momentum to help you wrap up the storylines that have been your biggest themes of 2021. For you, hard work and luxury go hand in hand, and you bring that intensity to how you give and receive pleasure. Your partners are very lucky to have your devotion so make sure you’re feeling appreciated for your efforts. 

Aquarius & Aquarius Rising (January 21-February 18)

December can be very merry and bright, Aquarius, so it’s all a matter of perspective. Try not to let the events of 2021 cover you like a weighted blanket keeping you snuggled up in bed while the holidays pass you by. Connect with your friends and get out as much as you can. Everytime you say yes to something you’re saying yes to new opportunities to be surprised. This time of year is really about meaningful connections rather than spending money to show people how much you care. If you are open to romance, you may meet someone through your social network or a friendship which may turn into something more so let it evolve slowly as true intimacy takes time. 

Pisces & Pisces Rising (February 19-March 20)

What are you most passionate about right now, Pisces? You may spend much of this month sorting through your feelings to make some decisions about what you want from your commitments and who you’d like to commit to. You might be ready to make some significant changes and upgrades in the coming year as and your intuition is already informing you of what is on the horizon before you can see it. Make the most of Venus retrograde in Capricorn to help you get grounded as you set intentions around love and money matters for 2022. Capricorn energy reminds us that being responsible is incredibly sexy. 

Aries & Aries Rising (March 21-April 19)

Get fired up about where you’re headed, Aries. This month, get flirty with your future self and the infinite possibilities that present themselves when you let yourself explore what turns you on right now. Your holiday travel plans should go smoothly, so much so, you may want to take advantage of travel deals and book that vacation you’ve been thinking about as a gift to yourself. Venus retrograde will help you budget accordingly so you can focus on more important things like your love life. If relationships have been on your mind, you could meet a sexy stranger while you’re away or take the opportunity to deepen your existing intimate bonds. 

Taurus & Taurus Rising (April 20-May 20)

Treat yourself this holiday season, Taurus, and everyone else too! Giving and receiving is significant not only when it comes to presents, but also in being present with those you care about. Intimacy is on your mind and it’s a great time to focus on your partnerships and what you’d like to experience in your relationships in 2022. This may require you to leave your comfort zone even if you’re not sure what that is. Looking back on what has worked and what has left you feeling frustrated this past year is a great place to start. Venus retrograde will make this process easier for you as you walk through new doorways of opportunity in the coming year. 

Gemini & Gemini Rising (May 21-June 20)

Commit to yourself first, Gemini. Being your own best partner starts by strengthening your foundations on an inner level. Last year (and perhaps the last two years) may have taken a toll on your nervous system and before you can make big moves forward you need to rest and focus on self-care. Enlist the support of your inner circle by letting them know how you’re feeling and setting clear boundaries around what you are and are not available for. Remember that “No” is a complete sentence. Once you’re feeling more relaxed you’ll be back to your curious flirtatious self.

Cancer & Cancer Rising (June 21-July 22)

Self-soothing is the best gift you can give yourself this month, Cancer. Make a list of everything that makes you feel supported, nurtured and relaxed. Consider this list a set of instructions for how to handle the last month of 2021 and refer back to it as needed when you’re feeling overwhelmed. This is a fun activity to do solo, or with your partner, and see how many of these things you can do together to reconnect. Venus retrograde in Capricorn will help you feel grounded and more patient with yourself and in your relationships. Capricorn energy always reminds us to slow down and appreciate the magic within the process.

Leo & Leo Rising (July 23-August 22)

This year has been bittersweet, Leo. Luckily, you can always find the sweetness in every sour situation. Try to avoid being everyone’s cup of cheer when you need to process your feelings. You don’t have to be on all the time. Give yourself permission to rest and leave people on read, you don’t always need to answer immediately or say yes to every invitation. Saving your energy and your money will come in handy when the right occasions present themselves. Venus retrograde will ease any guilt you feel while helping you set clear boundaries so you can show up at your best and brightest when you’re ready to mingle all the way. 

Virgo & Virgo Rising (August 23-September 22)

Get your house holiday ready by clearing space, Virgo. Take inventory of your physical, emotional, and mental clutter and get rid of it. You’re ready to set some powerful intentions for 2022 and the best way to prepare to receive what you desire is to create room in your life for it. Making space in your closet for a partner by donating the clothes you haven’t worn since before the pandemic creates magic. For those already in a cozy partnership, think about what you spend the bulk of your time doing that doesn’t add value to your relationship and reduce the time you’re spending on it as this creates space for the romance and intimacy you both crave.

Libra & Libra Rising (September 23-October 22)

Get creative with your words Libra. Now is the perfect time to express yourself, especially in your relationships. Say how you feel even if it seems scary. Your partnerships benefit from a direct approach, which may go against your accommodating nature. Rather than concern yourself with how someone else will react to your assertiveness, help them help you by speaking up for what you want. Venus retrograde is here to show you what is worthy of your efforts when it comes to love and money, by helping you cut out unnecessary purchases and surface level flirtations. Capricorn reminds you that quality is greater than quantity, be discerning with where you put your energy.

Scorpio & Scorpio Rising (October 23-November 21)

What do you value most, Scorpio? You may find yourself restricting your spending this holiday season, thanks to Venus’ tour through Capricorn, helping you to get serious about what you’re trying to create for yourself leading into 2022. The quality of life you’re building for yourself in your career spills over into your relationships – when you decide to level up the relationships that cannot rise up to meet you may suddenly take their leave, and this is ok. This clears the necessary space for the partnerships that can grow alongside you and cheer you on, which is something you deserve. It is safe to go after everything you desire, your power lies in this transformation. 

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