Prenups Are Sexy: Why Every Couple Should Talk About Them

When you hear the word prenup, what comes to mind? If it's a messy celebrity breakup or a dramatic courtroom battle, you’re not alone. But let’s flip the script: prenups aren’t about mistrust—they’re about love, clarity, and consent.

At Dame, we’re all about intentional intimacy and open conversations. So it makes total sense that we’d want to de-stigmatize prenup agreements and talk about them like we talk about sex: honestly, respectfully, and with everyone’s pleasure (and future) in mind.

What Is a Prenup?

A prenup, short for prenuptial agreement, is a legal contract that couples sign before getting married. It lays out how finances, property, debt, and other assets would be handled in the event of a separation, divorce, or even death.

Think of it like relationship insurance—not because you’re expecting things to fall apart, but because you’re proactively taking care of each other.

Why Talk About Prenups?

If you’re already planning your wedding playlist and dreaming about the honeymoon, a prenup conversation might feel like a buzzkill. But here’s the truth: talking about tough stuff builds intimacy.

You talk about your kinks, your boundaries, your future goals—why not your finances?

Here’s why prenups are powerful:

• Financial transparency: You’ll both get clear on income, savings, debt, and how you want to handle money together.

• Protecting each other: If one of you has a business, or kids from a previous relationship, a prenup can protect what matters.

• Reducing future conflict: If the relationship ever ends, decisions have already been made with love—not during heartbreak.

Who Should Get a Prenup?

Spoiler: not just the rich.

You might want a prenup if:

• You own a business or intellectual property (like art, apps, or content)

• One of you has significantly more debt or assets than the other

• You’re getting married later in life

• You want to ensure financial independence and fairness

• You simply value honest communication and clear expectations

How to Talk About a Prenup With Your Partner

Like all relationship convos, it’s all about tone and timing. Here’s a cheat sheet:

1. Start early: Don’t wait until the wedding is weeks away.

2. Be vulnerable: “This feels awkward, but I want us to be on the same page.”

3. Make it mutual: It’s not about protecting you from them—it’s about protecting both of you.

4. Use resources: Consider a therapist, mediator, or financial advisor to guide you through it.

A Healthy Relationship Is Built on Consent—So Is a Prenup

Just like in sex, clear communication, mutual agreement, and consent are what make a relationship work. A prenup is another form of that same practice. It can spark important conversations about goals, family planning, careers, and what “forever” looks like to each of you.

Final Thoughts

A prenup isn’t unromantic—it’s realistic, respectful, and rooted in love. In fact, it might be one of the most intimate decisions you’ll ever make together.

Whether you’re engaged, talking about marriage, or just future-curious, think of a prenup agreement as part of your relationship wellness toolkit—right alongside lube, communication skills, and a really good vibrator.