Best Sex Toys for Couples

Diving Deep Into Couples' Sex Toys

From wearable vibrators and dual-stimulation toys to prostate massagers and remote-controlled pleasures, couples' sex toys can heighten arousal and enhance the enjoyment of both partners. But the benefits go far beyond the physical. Introducing a toy or two into your shared space encourages curiosity about one another and the kind of honest communication that makes sex, and ultimately the relationship, so much more satisfying.

Yes, sometimes people worry that bringing a toy into the bedroom means something's missing. There's even a term for it: vibrator anxiety. But the truth? Pleasure isn't a competition. It's a collaboration. You can have mind-blowing sex without toys and with them. Both can be true.

While there are so many possibilities for sex toys for couples, we want to dive into five main categories of sex toys that aim to provide simultaneous stimulation for both partners.

1. Vibrating Cock Rings

This sex toy is a favorite for heterosexual couples. While most vibrators are tailored to female anatomy, the vibrating cock ring is designed to stimulate both partners during penetrative sex.

The idea is simple: the man wears the device around his shaft. Some versions feature multiple rings that wrap around the shaft and balls. Dame's version, Hug, was thoughtfully crafted to fit around most penis sizes. Its shape ensures a snug, comfortable fit, and the vibration is positioned to contact a vulva-haver's clitoris or other erogenous zones perfectly. A popular way for couples to enjoy a vibrating cock ring is for the woman to sit in a cowgirl position on top of the man, grinding against the vibrating surface of the ring against her clitoris.

Essential Features of Vibrating Cock Rings

• The shape of the vibrating device: Options range from bunny ears to cylindrical designs. Consider how flat or rounded the surface is—would a flatter surface press more comfortably against your body? Shapes like dolphins, spikes, or tongue styles also exist. The right shape can make all the difference in comfort and pleasure.
• Size and number of rings: Some vibrating cock rings have adjustable ties, while others come with multiple rings to fit around the shaft and balls. The Hug's wraparound design works for any size and makes it easy to put on and take off during play.
• Power source: Rechargeable models often provide stronger vibrations and longer-lasting power compared to battery-operated ones, which may have less juice or a shorter lifespan.
• Control options: You can choose between remote-controlled or button-operated models. Remote-controlled toys offer hands-free play and can be fun for surprises, but it's helpful to weigh the benefits against potential drawbacks, such as the need to keep the remote handy or possible disruptions if it gets lost.

2. Wearable Vibrators

Another exciting option for lesbian and heterosexual couples is a hands-free couples vibrator, allowing one partner to enjoy stimulation without losing the connection or function of both hands. With toys like Eva, developed by Dame in 2014, your hands are free to explore other erogenous zones. They open up a world of possibilities for multitasking during intimacy—multiple zones can be stimulated simultaneously, adding layers of pleasure and excitement.

Things to consider when choosing a wearable vibrator:

• Remote control or not
• Battery-powered or rechargeable
• Focus on the G-spot, clitoral, perineum, or dual stimulation
• Shape and size
• Vibration patterns and intensities
• Noise level
• Internal, external, or dual stimulation
• Color and aesthetics
• Whether you'd like to wear it discreetly in public
• Is the product on a best couples sex toy roundup list?

3. Basic and G-spot Vibrators

In cases where a penis-haver is not in a position to have penetrative sex, or maybe they just want to tease their partner, a g-spot vibrator that provides internal stimulation for a vulva-haver can be highly gratifying and build a unique connection.

Who is to say that a fun 69 position where one partner is giving oral while the other is receiving via the Dame Arc G-Spot Vibrator or Dip Basic Vibrator is not the best sex you'd have all week…or year.

4. Sex Furniture and Accessories

Investing in quality sex furniture can make all the difference. A variety of accessories exists to provide support, comfort, and versatility, allowing both partners to explore new positions and sensations more comfortably and creatively.

One option is a sex pillow or wedge, designed to lift, tilt, or angle your body in ways that enhance accessibility of particular erogenous spots. For example, a tilted sex pillow can support your hips during missionary, doggy style, or missionary variations, providing deeper penetration, e.g., G-spot stimulation or more access to the clitoris for easier stimulation.

Beyond pillows and wedges, other furniture options include:

• Bondage chairs or slings: support different positions and add a touch of BDSM play if you're feeling adventurous.
• Mounting beds or chairs with adjustable angles helps facilitate deeper access and more dynamic positions, as well as better oral stimulation.
• A sex blanket allows for all the messy goodness that comes with pleasure, without worrying about the cleanup or ruining your perfectly fresh sheets.

5. Finger and Bullet Vibrators

Finger vibrators or bullet vibrators are designed to pinpoint pleasure points with ease. These compact devices fit comfortably on your finger, allowing for targeted stimulation.

The best part about finger vibrators is their versatility—they aren't limited to genitals alone. You can place them on any erotic zone to enjoy gentle buzzing sensations on your ears, neck, behind your knee caps, or any area that responds to light stimulation.

A Few Helpful Tips for Using Sex Toys for Couples

Communication is key. Before introducing a toy, discuss your boundaries and desires openly with your partner. Start slowly and use lower vibration settings, then gradually increase the intensity. Experiment with different positions, techniques, and accessories, such as lubricant or massage oil, to enrich your experience. Remember, the goal is mutual pleasure—prioritize intimacy and connection while exploring new sensations.

Build Trust

Couples need to have trust and honest communication to foster a safe environment for experimentation and growth, including couples using sex toys. Carve time out of the daily routine to sit down and share your fantasies and listen to your partner's needs. You should agree on boundaries and establish regular check-ins with each other to maintain a healthy rapport.

Health And Cleanliness

To ensure longevity and safety, clean your couple's toys regularly with a quality sex toy cleaner. Store them in a cool, dry place, away from extreme temperatures and direct sunlight.

Explore Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is a simple yet powerful way for couples to deepen intimacy, explore their bodies, and embrace vulnerability together. It removes performance pressure, allowing both partners to focus on pleasure, connection, and understanding. Research shows that activities like this can enhance emotional closeness and improve communication, thereby fostering a stronger bond and greater awareness of each other's needs and desires.