Two Com toys, Dame's wand vibrator
Sexual Wellness

The Wonderful World of Wand Vibrators

4 min read

Created on 05/01/2022
Updated on 12/09/2025
Alexandra Fine

Alexandra Fine

Dame founder & sexologist

10+ years of experience

Sexual wellness Orgasm science Pleasure education

Alexandra Fine is the co-founder and CEO of Dame, a pioneering sexual wellness company known for its innovative products and mission to close the pleasure gap. Recognized in Forbes’ 30 Under 30 2018, Alexandra leads Dame in designing user-centered tools that enhance intimacy, receiving acclaim from major outlets like The New York Times and Wired. Under her leadership, Dame Products has become a leader in the sexual wellness industry, raised over $14M in capital, and launched in Target and Walmart, all while advocating for women's health and breaking barriers in advertising.

Edie Elliott Granger

Edie Elliott Granger

Editor & content strategist

3+ years of experience

Sexual wellness Orgasm science Pleasure education

Edie Elliott Granger is Dame's editor and content strategist specializing in sexual wellness, pleasure education, and accessible health information. She helps shape editorial content at Dame, translating research, expert insights, and cultural conversations into clear, approachable resources. With a background in sex education, her work focuses on making conversations around sex, bodies, and pleasure more informed, inclusive, and stigma-free.

How Did Wand Vibrators Come to Be?

Wand vibrators have a really neat place in our cultural imaginary. Originally designed as a round vibrating ball attached to a long handle, the wand vibrator provides powerful stimulation that’s been bringing vulva-havers to orgasm for decades. It now comes in many different shapes and sizes.  Wand to know more? Come with us on a brief introduction to the wand vibrator, its history, and its benefits. When most people think of wand vibrators, they think of the Magic Wand

Person holding a wand vibrator over their legs

This well-known wand emerged during the late 1960s and early 1970s and was originally marketed as a sports massaging device. It didn’t take long for women and vulva-havers to discover other, non-sports places to target this tool’s powerful and rumbly vibrations, offering pleasure and relief beyond just easing the pain of sore muscles.  Carina Hsieh, sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan, writes “Initially marketed as a general body massager for sore muscles, the Magic Wand quickly gained a cult following in the early '70s for the off-label use as one of the best vibrators for clitoral stimulation.”

Since then, countless iterations of the Magic Wand have emerged, some more explicitly categorized as sex toys than others.  When we think about the advent of the Magic Wand in the context of American culture and politics, its introduction in the late 1960s corresponds nicely with the emergence of the Women’s Liberation Movement. This was a time in the larger history of feminist movements and activism that women’s sex and pleasure became unapologetically prioritized.

 Birth control and abortion access were main tenets of this wave of feminism, but so were sex and pleasure. Feminists themselves began to have nuanced debates about the role of pleasure, relationships, pornography, and even kink. These debates are often referred to as The Feminist Sex Wars and many of these conversations are still happening.

The wand’s introduction and increased use during this time was yet another tool of the complicated and exciting feminist goal of liberating women.

Very strategic in their marketing, Hitachi didn’t publicly acknowledge the Magic Wand’s use for sexual pleasure until the 1990s. This allowed many women to use it with a sense of discretion* as well as freedom. *There is no data available on how many of the personal massager’s users had claimed “taking up a new sport” to justify its purchase to friends and neighbors. 

With up to 75% of vulva-havers reporting needing clitoral stimulation to orgasm, the wand vibrator was the first entry in a now robust line of options working to close the pleasure gap. That now-infamous bulbous head gives broad stimulation to any erogenous zone, and most popularly, the clitoris and surrounding vulvar area. Wand vibrators are usually pretty powerful tools that offer intense external clitoral stimulation. And, because they are so powerful, they can still be used for non-erotic massaging purposes. Our main takeaway here: the wand is badass feminist icon and has been subverting patriarchal mores around pleasure for decades now. So, of course, we needed to make our own. We called it Com, because it’s the most comfortable wand to date.

Exploring Dame's Wand Vibrators

Com wand vibrator

 Introduced in January of 2022, Com wand vibrator is our body-friendly take on the classic wand shape, upgraded for comfort. Later in 2025, we introduced our mini version, the Min wand vibrator! Both of them are great as a first wand or for more experienced players craving intense external stimulation, Com’s curved handle makes it easy to hold while it works its magic. It’s cordless and much lighter than its predecessors, fitting naturally against your body to reduce strain while you focus on yourself and your pleasure.

Com and Min are made with Dame’s most powerful motor to date and can double as a personal massager, much like its predecessors. Where it differs is its flexible neck and bendy, bulbed head. This allows for broad clitoral stimulation as well as accessibility for people of all body types. If you’ve been curious about wand vibrators but find their size or shape intimidating, Com could be the perfect solution. It offers a more intuitive amount of vibration that is less likely to overstimulate, encouraging you to get comfortable as you play and explore external erogenous zones.

So whether you’re looking for power, broad pleasure, or a new way to participate in feminist history, you may want to give a wand vibrator a try. At the very least, you’ll have something to recommend the next time a friend mentions a vague “sports injury” that needs massaging. 

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FAQs

A: A vibrator is a powerful and versatile personal pleasure device that creates vibrations to stimulate various sensitive areas of your body, like the clitoris and G-spot. They come in a wide range of shapes, sizes, and features, so there's something for everyone.

Vibrators can be used on almost any erogenous zone, offering unique sensations that can boost your pleasure and help you discover what feels amazing. Some are designed to mimic penetration, while others focus on external stimulation to give you an unforgettable experience.

Did you know that fewer than 20% of vulva-owner can climax solely with vaginal stimulation or intercourse? This is why vibrators have been growing in popularity, and why companies like Dame are dedicated to amplifying the conversation of closing the pleasure gap.

Learn more on the blog.

A: Using a vibrator can enhance your pleasure significantly, but where you use them differs based on preference and if you are a vulva or penis owner. Begin by selecting a comfortable and private space where you feel at ease. If desired, use sex toy-safe lubrication, as this will enhance sensations and reduce friction. Turn on your vibrator (usually a button on the opposite end of the "head"), and explore different settings or intensities using the buttons provided on the device and gradually finding what feels best for you.

For an additional step-by-step guide, check out detailed instructions here, which talk about insights on techniques, positioning, and tips for maximum pleasure.

A: There are numerous types of vibrators, each designed for various forms of stimulation:

Clit Vibrator: These are specifically shaped to target the clitoris, often with a compact and discreet design for ease of use.

G-spot Vibrator: Typically curved, these vibrators are designed to reach and stimulate the G-spot, providing deeper sensations during penetration.

Finger Vibrator: Small and often worn on the fingertip, these offer precise control and are perfect for targeted stimulation.

Couples Vibrator: Designed to be worn during intercourse, they provide simultaneous pleasure by stimulating both partners.

Vibrating Cock Ring: Worn around the base of the penis, these enhance sensations for both partners during sex and can help with stamina.

Suction Vibrator: These use suction air-pulse technology to create a unique sensation for the clitoris, often simulating oral stimulation.

Wand Vibrator: Known for its powerful motors and larger size, these versatile devices can be used all over the body for broad-based pleasure.

Bullet Vibrator: Compact and portable and designed for targeted stimulation and are perfect for both solo and partnered play.

A: Yes! Dame vibrators are designed to be waterproof, making them suitable for use in the bath or shower. They also come with rechargeable batteries, eliminating the need for disposable batteries and ensuring long-lasting pleasure. Most can be charged via USB, making it easy to keep them ready for when the mood strikes.

A: Dame vibrators are touted for their whisper-quiet motors, designed to pleasure without drawing attention or distracting during intimate moments. If you're looking for a discreet vibrator, try looking for something smaller in size, like a bullet vibrator.