The closest you can get...emotionally and physically.Others narrowed it down, specifying that “sex” must involve our bodies. “Intimacy between two or more people that involves physical stimulation,” our Art Director, Emma Olswing, offered. This respondent was even more inclusive: “Any kind of touch between partners, I think especially out of bed.” Sex is “the closest you can get...emotionally and physically,” another person said. One message said “Skin against skin with mouths involved and a desire for closeness”—for this person, it ain’t sex if there ain’t kissing. “Consensual physical contact of 2+ people that makes them feel fucking amazing,” another person said. (If it doesn’t feel good, in other words, it doesn’t count.) Still others felt that a climax is necessary to truly count as sex. One person wrote that sex was “anything with a partner, ending in an orgasm.” Another went so far as to say that “sex,” as a term, “makes no sense! We should say ‘orgasms.’ Let’s have orgasms!” After our callout, one thing was clear: the Dame community has evolved way beyond the restrictive boundaries of the past. Definitions of sex are highly individual and creative. The possibilities are endless!
Digging Deeper into the Meaning of "Self Care" and "Take Care"
How have the terms "take care" and "self care" evolved in a post-pandemic climate?
Why Everyone's So Afraid of the Clitoris
We spoke with Malabou about her book, the significance of the clitoris in the world today, and how we can reclaim a body part that has so often been pathologized...
My Husband and I Saved Ourselves for Marriage
How do I know we're making the most out of our sex life?
How do I get my boyfriend to stop treating me like a therapist?
Dear Dame, I feel more like my boyfriend's therapist than his girlfriend. Help!
- View all