What are multiple orgasms?You might be wondering what multiple orgasms even are. Like, don’t you just smash (in a mutually consensual and enthusiastic way) and then knock off to bed? Not necessarily!
Our orgasmic potential is endless.People with vulvas have, on average, a shorter refractory period than people with penises. A refractory period is the time after orgasm during which your body returns to equilibrium and chills before it gets to a place to become aroused again. For people with clits, this can be quite short—several minutes—or entirely non-existent. Anatomically speaking, most people with clitorises are capable of having multiple orgasms. It’s one of the things that makes us so freakin’ amazing. This doesn’t mean everyone wants or has multiple orgasms, but it’s a cool thing to know, either way. Our orgasmic potential is endless. While there isn’t consensus about how all of this works, we can break it down so it starts to make sense. There are three types of multiple orgasms, according to world-famous sex hacker Kenneth Play: Popcorn Style (multiple orgasms that happen at random times throughout the sexual experience), Quick Succession Style (where they happen one after the other), and then there’s the Rolling Multi-Orgasm Style (one long, rolling orgasm - which may actually be lots of smaller orgasms. The ones where you feel like you’re orgasming for, like, three straight minutes). There is debate amongst experts about whether the “multiple orgasms” in the Quick Succession Style are actually just “aftershocks” from the initial orgasm. This might well be the case, but in my extremely professional opinion: If it feels like multiple orgasms and it feels amazing for you, who the hell cares? Basically: Multiple orgasms are when you reach climax multiple times during one sexual experience and can happen in lots of different ways for different people. If it feels good and you are loving it, go forth and prosper.
Get to know your personal sexual response cycle.“First, spend time with yourself, getting to know your own sexual response cycle and playing with timing, pace, breath and movement,” says Kristine D’Angelo, a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist. “Also, a sexual aid like a vibrator can help influence your sexual response during partnered sexual experiences.” When we talk about human sexual response or orgasm, we usually jump to the original model created by pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson in the 1960s. These groundbreaking sex heroes broke the human sexual response cycle down into four stages: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. This has been much further developed as we’ve come to better understand sexual response. It is not a linear process; it’s circular and includes “desire” as its starting point. The cycle depends on many psychological, biological, and social factors.
Take it slow, breathe, and don’t put pressure on the experience.In other words: It’s complicated! Which is why the best way to figure out if you’re a person who experiences multiple orgasms is to experiment with your own cycle and see what works and what doesn’t. Remember, whether you’re with a partner or solo, take it slow, breathe, and don’t put pressure on the experience. This should be fun, not work.