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4 Breathwork Exercises You Can Use Anywhere

6 min read

Created on 13/07/2022
Updated on 13/10/2022
Edie Elliot Granger

Edie Elliot Granger

Editor & content strategist

3+ years of experience

Sexual wellness Orgasm science Pleasure education

Edie Elliott Granger is Dame's editor and content strategist specializing in sexual wellness, pleasure education, and accessible health information. She helps shape editorial content at Dame, translating research, expert insights, and cultural conversations into clear, approachable resources. With a background in sex education, her work focuses on making conversations around sex, bodies, and pleasure more informed, inclusive, and stigma-free.

Alexandra Fine

Alexandra Fine

Dame founder & sexologist

10+ years of experience

Sexual wellness Orgasm science Pleasure education

Alexandra Fine is the co-founder and CEO of Dame, a pioneering sexual wellness company known for its innovative products and mission to close the pleasure gap. Recognized in Forbes’ 30 Under 30 2018, Alexandra leads Dame in designing user-centered tools that enhance intimacy, receiving acclaim from major outlets like The New York Times and Wired. Under her leadership, Dame Products has become a leader in the sexual wellness industry, raised over $14M in capital, and launched in Target and Walmart, all while advocating for women's health and breaking barriers in advertising.

We all know how to breathe, so why is everyone going wild about breathwork exercises? Though it’s easy to be skeptical about simply breathing, breathwork is about much more than inhaling and exhaling. It’s about unlocking the power of your breath and mind together. Breathwork has been found to relieve stress, alleviate anxiety, and improve general mindfulness and wellbeing (amongst other things). The beauty of it? It’s accessible and open for anyone to try, because all you need is yourself. In this article, we explore the many benefits of integrating breathwork into your day-to-day life and walk you through 4 exercises that you can use anywhere, at any time, whenever you need.

What is breathwork?

Breathwork is a broad term that encapsulates all types of therapy that draw on the power of the breath and breathing exercises. There are many different types of breathwork technique and ‘schools’ such as Holotropic Breathwork, Rebirthing and Shamanic Breathwork. However, they all share the essential principle of consciously controlling and changing your breathing pattern as an active form of meditation, therapy, or self-healing. The origins of breathwork lie in yoga and its fundamental concept of pranayama, which is the practice of breath regulation. If you find your mind wandering when you sit down to meditate, breathwork exercises can be a great alternative. Though they are still a type of meditation, they’re an active version that gives you something to anchor your mind with. The intentionality and focus needed to control your breath helps to hold you in the present moment and let go of everything else that might be crowding your mind.

What can I use breathwork for?

People practice breathwork for lots of different reasons. The benefits of breathwork are numerous, and as we’ve said, it’s a tool that you can use for your own purpose. At their core, breathwork exercises work to activate your parasympathetic nervous system which in turn helps to send a calming signal around your whole body. It does this by stimulating your vagus nerve (a key component of your parasympathetic nervous system). Relaxing is not the only thing breathwork is good for, though. In fact, these techniques have been shown to:
  • Relieve stress and anxiety and calm your ‘fight or flight’ instinct
  • Reduce anger
  • Enhance focus and efficiency
  • Decrease addictive behaviors
  • Stimulate a better state of mind with more positivity or a better outlook on life
  • Help with better quality sleep
  • Increase self-awareness, self-healing and self-compassion
It’s worth trying out different schools and types of exercises too, to discover what resonates with you and what you’re seeking out of the practice.

4 breathwork exercises you can use anywhere

Breathwork doesn’t need to be practiced on a yoga mat at home. You can draw on it whenever you need. This is especially helpful in moments of unanticipated stress or anxiety or when you need to enhance your focus and productivity. We’ve chosen these 4 breathwork exercises because you can do them anywhere, whether you’re at home, on the go, or in a public space. These exercises will help you to create a moment for yourself, disconnect from the outside world, and harness the power of your breath.

“Relaxing breath”: 4-7-8 breathing

4-7-8 breathing is a technique that is attributed to Dr. Andrew Weil and is based on pranayama. It aims to help you calm down, slow your heart rate, and can be helpful if you’re feeling anxious or want to bring your emotions down.

How to do 4-7-8 breathing:

  1. First empty all the air from your lungs with a big and slow exhale
  2. Breathe in, through your nose, for four seconds
  3. Hold your breath inside for seven seconds
  4. Then exhale out of your mouth for eight seconds
  5. Repeat this cycle four times.
If this is new to you, start with four repetitions. With more practice, you can build yourself up to eight.

Box Breathing: 4-4-4-4

You might be surprised to learn that box breathing is used by the Navy SEALs. It’s also called 4-4-4-4 breathing, equal breathing, or 4x4 breathing and sama vritti in yoga. Studies suggest that box breathing is effective in relaxing you in types of heightened stress, offsetting your body’s instinctive ‘fight or flight’ mechanism, as well as helping you focus. As the name suggests, this breathwork exercises is all about the number four, which makes it super easy to remember. You’re trying to achieve balance between your inhales and exhales.

How to do box breathing:

  1. First empty your lungs of air by breathing out slowly
  2. Breathe in for four seconds through your nose
  3. Hold your breath inside for four seconds
  4. Exhale for four seconds
  5. Hold your breath for four seconds
  6. Then do the same cycle again four times

Coherent breathing

When practicing coherent breathing, you want to try and slow down your breathing so you’re only taking five breaths every minute.

How to do coherent breathing:

  1. Breathe in, counting to five.
  2. Take a brief pause before exhaling whilst counting to six.
  3. Repeat. WIth time, build yourself up to repeating for up to twenty minutes.

Pursed Lip Breathing

Pursed lip breathing might sound a little strange, but it actually helps to intentionally slow your breathing down and focus on each and every breath you take.

How to do pursed lip breathing:

  1. Sit up tall, or, if you can, lie down.
  2. Breathe in through your nose
  3. Purse your lips and then exhale through your mouth slowly.
  4. Try to achieve a 2:1 ratio where your exhale is twice as long as your inhale.
  5. Repeat.

Top tips for breathwork exercises

  1. Breathwork is a practice and a process. If a breath hold feels uncomfortable or unachievable, don’t sweat it. Try reducing the breath hold the first few times, and work yourself up to the target number when you feel ready.
  2. When you’re breathing in, try to draw your breath all the way into your abdomen as well as your lungs.
  3. Try different breathwork exercises to see how they work for you. You may find that a certain technique is more accessible or effective for you than others. There are many more exercises beyond these five and you can find a whole range of free resources online. If you’ve got a specific goal, want to address a particular issue you’re having, or have a pre-existing medical condition it’s advisable to seek out professional guidance before embarking on your breathwork journey.
  4. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Lean into breathwork without thinking too much or feeling self-conscious Even if you feel a little skeptical, give it a try. You might surprise yourself with the benefits you reap.

Why is breathwork so powerful?

Though breathwork may appear deceptively simple, its power and influence over our bodies can be transformative. Studies have shown that deep breathing engages your parasympathetic nervous system, slows down your heart rate and lowers your blood pressure. Breathwork can be anything that you want or need it to be. It can be meditative, spiritual, therapeutic, and/or healing. You can use it to help you focus, enhance your intentionality, build out a stronger mind-body connection or to cope with anxiety. It’s a tool that you can use whenever and however you see fit.

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