Sexual Health Accessories Guide: Lubricant, Cleaner & What You Actually Need
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Sexual Health Accessories Guide: Lubricant, Cleaner & What You Actually Need

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Created on 31/08/2026
Updated on 31/08/2026
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Edie Elliott Granger

Edie Elliott Granger

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Nobody buys a new vibrator and is most excited about the pouch it comes in. But don’t you dare toss that - it’s the toy’s accessories that keep it feeling good, every single time. 

First and foremost: lube, and something mild to clean the formula with - off of skin, toys and more. You’ll also need somewhere dry to put it afterwards. The best part? None of it it has to be complicated.

Lube & why nobody should be skipping it

Even when we’re feeling super turned on, our bodies usually do better with a little more lubrication than what we produce naturally. Feeling any friction can be the whole reason people decide a toy "isn't for them."

That’s why type matters. Water-based will work with every toy material and any condom type, which often ends up making it the safe default. Silicone-based formulas will usually lasts longer, but since they degrade silicone toys over time, keep that one for skin-to-skin play.

Aloe Lube is water-based, formulated with organic aloe vera and plant extracts including hemp seed, quinoa seed and green tea. It's formulated to match the vagina's natural pH and is free of glycerin, parabens, sugar, and added hormones. Glycerin is the one worth knowing about, because it can feed yeast and increase infection risk for people prone to it.

$19 for a 4 fl oz bottle, and it works with every toy material, silicone included.

Something to clean it with

When it comes to cleaning up lube, a gentle unscented soap does the job, or a dedicated toy cleaner, like Hand + Vibe Sex Toy Cleaner. You’ll want to skip anything harsh and antibacterial, or anything fragranced. 

If a toy’s body is pure silicone, with no electronics contained inside, the occasional bath in boiling water gives you a full sterilization that a wipe down won’t. Triple check what you’re holding first - anything with a motor does not qualify!

Plus, somewhere to put it

A breathable fabric travel pouch, the kind that comes with most Dame products, keeps toys clean between uses without trapping moisture the way that a sealed plastic bag will.

One pouch per toy. Silicone left pressed against silicone can degrade over time and go tacky, which is exactly as unpleasant as it sounds.

Arousal support, if you want it

Some people benefit from an arousal serum, like Arousal Serum, applied externally before sex, designed to gently increase blood flow and sensitivity in the clitoral area.

It's an addition rather than a replacement for adequate time and stimulation. Useful if sensitivity is running lower than it used to, whether that's hormonal change, medication, or ordinary variation.

The whole starter kit

  • A water-based lubricant free of glycerin and parabens

  • A mild, unscented toy cleaner or soap

  • A breathable storage pouch, one per toy

  • A vibrator with body-safe, 100% silicone construction

Why the boring stuff matters

Listen: we know none of this is thrilling on its own. It can also be the difference between a toy that stays with you for years, and one that falls apart early, or you barely use due to irritation. 

Get the fundamentals down, and everything else will work the way it was designed to. 

Questions people actually ask

What ingredients should I avoid in a lubricant?
Glycerin is one ingredient to watch, since it can increase the risk of yeast infections for anyone prone to them. Make sure to also look out for parabens, any added fragrance, plus warming or tingling agents. 

Is Alu the same product as Aloe Lube?
That’s right - Alu is now Aloe Lube. It’s the same water-based, pH-matched formula, just with a different name on the bottle. 

Can I use the same lubricant with all my toys?
If you always use water-based lubricant, yes. Aloe Lube will be compatible with every toy material - including silicone. The one formula to stay away from is anything silicone-based, since it will degrade silicone toys over time. 

How often should I replace my travel pouch?
As long as you wash and dry it properly with regular use, you won’t have to. If it starts wearing through or holds onto any smells, time to toss and replace.

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FAQs

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Vibrators can be used on almost any erogenous zone, offering unique sensations that can boost your pleasure and help you discover what feels amazing. Some are designed to mimic penetration, while others focus on external stimulation to give you an unforgettable experience.

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A: Using a vibrator can enhance your pleasure significantly, but where you use them differs based on preference and if you are a vulva or penis owner. Begin by selecting a comfortable and private space where you feel at ease. If desired, use sex toy-safe lubrication, as this will enhance sensations and reduce friction. Turn on your vibrator (usually a button on the opposite end of the "head"), and explore different settings or intensities using the buttons provided on the device and gradually finding what feels best for you.

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A: There are numerous types of vibrators, each designed for various forms of stimulation:

Clit Vibrator: These are specifically shaped to target the clitoris, often with a compact and discreet design for ease of use.

G-spot Vibrator: Typically curved, these vibrators are designed to reach and stimulate the G-spot, providing deeper sensations during penetration.

Finger Vibrator: Small and often worn on the fingertip, these offer precise control and are perfect for targeted stimulation.

Couples Vibrator: Designed to be worn during intercourse, they provide simultaneous pleasure by stimulating both partners.

Vibrating Cock Ring: Worn around the base of the penis, these enhance sensations for both partners during sex and can help with stamina.

Suction Vibrator: These use suction air-pulse technology to create a unique sensation for the clitoris, often simulating oral stimulation.

Wand Vibrator: Known for its powerful motors and larger size, these versatile devices can be used all over the body for broad-based pleasure.

Bullet Vibrator: Compact and portable and designed for targeted stimulation and are perfect for both solo and partnered play.

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