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Dame's Guide to Arousal

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Created on 12/04/2021
Updated on 10/09/2025
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Arousal is a mysterious thing. It can disappear or come out of nowhere, and from surprising places. Your body can be aroused even if your mind isn't—or vice versa. And sometimes you might need a little help becoming aroused in the first place. Here are 10 of our favorite posts about physical, mental, and emotional arousal.

1. The Difference Between Attraction, Arousal, and Desire

"Before we talk about arousal, let's define what it is—and how it differs from related (but distinct) sexual vocabulary."

2. What Is Arousal Non-Concordance?

"Our cultural understanding of desire assumes that we can tell if someone is turned on by how their body is responding during sex. Turns out that’s not really true!"

3. A Modern Guide to Foreplay

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4. How Vibrators Can Increase Arousal

“Vibrators can help you get into the mood when you’re not already feeling it. That’s right: they can jump-start your arousal from zero.”

5. Why Do Fear and Danger Make Us Horny?

"It turns out that the primary, base emotion that underlies both sexual arousal and fear is the same."

6. Rediscover the Pleasure of Kissing

"Arousal starts in the brain before it reaches other parts of your body. There’s something so naturally erotic and arousing about kissing."

kissing guide

7. How to Embrace Your Most Out-There Sexual Fantasies

"Ah, the sexual fantasy: a roaming, sexy series of erotic images that float into your conscious brain when aroused or looking to become aroused."

8. Vulva-Havers Get Stage Fright, Too

"The more worried you are about these physical symptoms, the more likely they are to occur."

9. Everyone Is Responsible For Their Own Pleasure

"Notice where different types of touch bring you on the arousal scale. Perhaps rubbing your clit slowly brings you from a two to a four."

10. A Guide to Your Body's Pleasure Chemicals

pleasure chemicals

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Vibrating Cock Ring: Worn around the base of the penis, these enhance sensations for both partners during sex and can help with stamina.

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Wand Vibrator: Known for its powerful motors and larger size, these versatile devices can be used all over the body for broad-based pleasure.

Bullet Vibrator: Compact and portable and designed for targeted stimulation and are perfect for both solo and partnered play.

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