Chests, nipples, and breasts are all erogenous zones, but honestly, they don’t get the attention they deserve.
Some people like to engage in breast play in pursuit of nipple orgasms, but even during foreplay, breast and nipple play can feel awesome. Nipple stimulation and breast massage can even help increase vaginal lubrication and relax the pelvic floor muscles, which is pretty nifty.
Like any other part of your body, exploring what feels good for your chest (and your partner’s breasts, too!) is a process, and there’s no one thing that feels good to everyone. So, to jumpstart your exploration, here are 15 ways to try out breast stimulation and play. (And remember, these techniques can feel good for people of all genders, sexualities, and body types, whether or not they have a full and pillowy chest!)
1. Use nipple clamps
Nipple clamps may seem intimidating, but really, they’re just tools to help increase sensation in nipples. Sure, you can make it a little kinky and use them as part of consensual BDSM pain play, but nipple clamps don’t have to be painful. Opt for a pair that is adjustable (like this set from Sportsheets) so that you can increase or decrease the pressure as much as you want. I don’t recommend wearing nipple clamps for extended periods of time, though—try following a 10 minutes on, 5 minutes off schedule.2. Add a drop of lube
Lube is the universe’s gift to all of us—and it’s not just for your genitals! Adding a drop of lube before intense nipple-rubbing or massage can add just the right amount of slipperiness.3. Try out wax play
Wax play is a great way to bring temperature play into the bedroom, especially when paired with a blindfold. Opt for candles that have been designed specifically for wax play; they’re designed with breast sensitivity in mind, so they’re less likely to have additives that can further irritate your skin. Plus, being able to choose the wax also means you can choose the melting point, so you can opt for something that burns at a lower temperature. Remember, nipples and chests are sensitive, so don’t pour straight from a burning candle – take your time! Blow out the flame and wait a minute or two for the wax to cool down a bit.4. Show them off in a harness
You’re hot AF and you know it. While many of us think of harnesses as tools for strap-on sex, there are also plenty of harnesses designed for chests of all shapes and sizes. Chest harnesses can be sexy as heck, and like lingerie, they help to accentuate what you’ve got. Feeling confident helps increase your sexual arousal and pleasure, so wearing things that make you feel good really does matter.It doesn’t all need to be about grabbing, pinching, and sucking – a light touch can be just as pleasurable.
5. Chill things out
Grab some ice from your freezer or pop a pair of nipple clamps in the fridge for 20 minutes! Either way, brief periods of cool temperatures can increase sensation. If your nips start going numb, it’s time to give them a break and bring them back to room temperature.6. Incorporate a sensitizing product
I recommend exercising caution when using sensitizing products on your clitoris or the rest of the clitoral area (always test them on your inner forearm first in case you have a sensitivity to it), but they can be great to use on your nipples, too! This can be especially helpful for folks who have limited sensation in their nipples, whether from surgery or just because it’s how their body is. Try Sliquid’s O-Gel or Foria’s Awaken Arousal Oil.7. Wear nipple pasties
Nipples can be super-sensitive, and some folks may prefer to leave them untouched. That doesn’t mean you can’t decorate them, though! Fun nipple pasties can be combined with a chest harness, lingerie, or be worn on their own. They also make a great addition to a striptease.8. Use an ultra-light touch
It doesn’t all need to be about grabbing, pinching, and sucking when it comes to stimulating nipples and breasts. A light touch can be just as pleasurable. Using your mouth, fingertips, or a toy like a feather tickler, focus on using super-light pressure on the nipples or breast overall. That soft touch can amp up the anticipation—and the sensations.9. Try out a two-armed vibe
Two-armed vibes that are designed to look like tuning forks are great for indirect stimulation and a “stroking” motion, thanks to the gap between the arms. So, if you want a massaging sensation along with vibrations, these toys could be great options to try out. Because they tend to have motors in each “arm,” the sensation can be incredibly intense. Try out Le Wand’s Deux or Crave’s Duet. (And if you want to try vibrations but don’t want to buy new sex toys, bullet vibrators like Kip can be great for nipples, too!)Some types of bras feature strategic cut-outs, open cups, or sheer designs so that can help you feel hot and confident.
