How to Prevent Chafing During Sex

We love friction in the right places—like the delicious slide of skin on skin, the press of bodies moving in sync, and the heat that builds between you. But when that friction turns into chafing? Not so sexy. For more on what actually feels good (and what doesn’t), see 10 common myths about female pleasure debunked

Chafing during sex is more common than you might think, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It happens when skin rubs against skin (or other surfaces) in a way that causes irritation, redness, or even painful raw spots. But the good news? A few simple tricks can keep things feeling smooth, comfortable, and totally pleasurable. Let’s get into it.

1. Lube Is Your Best Friend

If there’s one thing to take away from this, it’s that lube is magic. Dryness—whether from friction, prolonged movement, or just your body's natural rhythms—can lead to irritation. Using a high-quality, body-safe lubricant reduces friction and makes everything feel better.

• For vaginal or anal sex: An aloe-based lube (hello, Aloe Lube) is great for toys and condoms, while an oil-based lube lasts longer for extra slip.
• For skin-on-skin action: A little dab of oil-based lube or moisturizer, like  Play Balm, on inner thighs or other high-contact areas can reduce rubbing.

2. Moisturize & Prep Your Skin

Hydrated skin is happy skin. Just like you wouldn’t go for a run with dry, cracked feet, you don’t want to dive into sexy time with parched skin. Applying a gentle, fragrance-free moisturizer to common chafing areas (inner thighs, under breasts, anywhere that gets friction-heavy) can create a soft barrier. Our Dame's Play Balm is perfect for this.  For a longer-lasting glide that doubles as foreplay, try Dame’s Massage Oil

3. Positioning Matters

Some positions create more friction than others. If you notice certain moves leading to irritation, try switching things up:

• Positions with less direct rubbing (like spooning or face-to-face grinding) can ease pressure on sensitive areas.
• Adding a Pillo for support can reduce unwanted friction.

4. Trim, Don’t Shave (Or Give It Time to Heal)

Freshly shaved or waxed skin is more prone to irritation. If you’re prone to chafing, consider trimming rather than fully removing hair, or giving yourself a day or two after shaving. For chest-specific sensitivity tips, see Dame’s guide to breast play.

5. Take Breaks & Check In

If something feels too intense, pause! A quick break to reapply lube, adjust your position, or just check in with your partner can make a big difference. Good sex isn’t about powering through discomfort—it’s about pleasure for everyone involved.

6. Aftercare = Self-Care

If you do experience chafing, be kind to your skin afterward. Wash gently with warm water and a mild cleanser, then apply a soothing balm (like aloe vera or an unscented lotion like Play Balm). If irritation persists, give your body time to heal before jumping back in.

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Sex should feel good—not leave you sore in a bad way. A little prep, the right lube, and tuning into your body’s needs can keep things smooth, comfortable, and (most importantly) sexy.

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